One of the cruelest things a woman can do to a guy, is to know that he has a soft spot for her and believes in her niceness, but will use that to sweetly use him as a way to pass the time and help do odd-jobs, and to keep him hanging. She also offers nothing in return apart from empty words. A fake friendship of one-sided convenience. In short, you are her go-to person, her Man Friday.

Conversation is about them

When all of your conversations with someone revolve around them, they’re likely getting more out of the relationship than you are, which makes it one-sided. Maybe they need someone to talk to and you’re able to fulfill that role, maybe they prefer to be the center of attention all the time and with you, they’re able to.

They always let you pick up the check.

Though you might not be comfortable letting them pay for everything all the time, you shouldn’t be paying for everything either. And if they’re always OK with letting you pick up the check, that could be another sign that they’re really only using you.

You always have to come to their rescue.

Though one of the nice things about relationships with family, friends, and, yes, partners, is that you have someone on your side. But if you’re always having to bail them out, that’s a pretty good sign that they could be using you.

They never say thank you.

Whether you drive them to work, make a lunch, clean up after dinner, help with the kids, attend to their parents, consider their friends or do their laundry, you likely expect your efforts to be met with appreciation. You shouldn’t always feel obligated to be the one doing everything, particularly if they’re not pitching in as well — or at least saying thank you every now and again.

They’re always asking for favors.

You shouldn’t be afraid to ask for the occasional favor, but if someone is constantly asking you for favors and isn’t willing to help out anytime you need their help, that’s another potential sign that they’re using you. If someone isn’t enjoying your company and simply being together, and they always have a purpose for wanting to see you, once they get that job they want at your company or start dating your cute friend, then they will very often be done with you and your relationship.

You start to resent them.

If you’re always the one catering to them, you might notice that you start to feel a bit resentful, which, is only natural, but can be an additional indicator that they’re actually using you. If the two are you are equally invested, no one person should feel too resentful of the other.

Your emotional needs are never considered, let alone met.

In a relationship that’s balanced and healthy (and in which both people actually like the other), both people’s emotional needs are not only considered, but attempted to be met. If your needs aren’t ever met, that’s another sign that the person might be in it for themselves. If you feel like you are the one doing all of the giving in the relationship and you find you aren’t getting your emotional needs met, they could be using you. If it’s a self-esteem issue and you feel like you deserve to be used, please seek professional help and try to start therapy to learn to build your self-worth back.

They never make you feel appreciated.

If you rarely or never really feel appreciated in your relationship with this other person, they might not actually like you. You should at least occasionally feel appreciated in each relationship you’re in. If they respond by trying to make you feel needy, call them out. We all desire recognition and gratitude — they’re universal needs, so tell them that if they expect the efforts, you expect the thanks.

Team Versuasion – India