Increasingly, society is seeing the effects of toxic gender roles and stereotypes. These affect people of all ages and backgrounds, but are particularly damaging to our youth. Too often, young men are conditioned from early childhood that to be a man you have to be tough, unemotional, and in control. The stigma around showing weakness or sensitivity has adverse effects on their mental health, relationships, and functioning in society. Embracing vulnerability should be encouraged in young men. They must feel safe in expressing their emotions, seeking help when needed, and prioritizing their mental wellbeing. 

EFFECTS OF SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS AND NORMS

Repressing who you really are and ignoring your authentic self can cause identity issues, mental health struggles, and low self-worth. The model of toxic masculinity works on receiving acceptance, approval, and validation from the outside world. It ignores the deeper inner world of young men who are subjected to it.

Young men subjected to the limitations of toxic masculinity may have to deny their true self in order to fit in. Doing this decreases emotional well-being and personal fulfillment. This puts teenage boys, who already face all sorts of pressures, more at risk for developing depression and anxiety.

RESISTING SOCIAL NORMS

Expecting young men to resist societal norms in order to become healthy, expressive humans seems like a lot to ask. It takes guts and self-belief to challenge the dysfunction of the macho male ideal. However, doing so can lead to a more fulfilling life that is in alignment with healthier values and an enlightened outlook.

Part of embracing your vulnerability means having the courage to be different and stand out as an individual. By showing your individuality, you may be leaving yourself open to criticism or judgment. But by honoring your own uniqueness and that of others, you are helping to create a more inclusive conversation.

CHALLENGING STEREOTYPES

In order to move away from unhealthy gender norms, we need to challenge stereotypes. Typical toxic masculinity does not allow for men to be expressive with their emotions, show weakness, or be vulnerable. For example, it is considered unmanly to cry or exhibit emotional pain, be affectionate, or show tenderness. However, when young men are given the space to be vulnerable, they can give those hidden parts of themselves humanity.

There is a broad range of broad emotions young men can and should experience once they are given a chance to be vulnerable and open. They need to understand that it is okay to not be okay.

EMBRACING VULNERABILITY

Rigid ideals of masculinity put strain on relationships. Boys and young men struggle with showing compassion and sympathy. They are unable to communicate intimately with their partners or friends. However, when we are permitted to embrace all the facets of ourselves, we are able to connect with others and nurture meaningful relationships. By accepting their vulnerabilities, young men can create relationships based on trust, emotional depth, and good communication.

EXPANSIVE SELF-EXPRESSION

Once you feel comfortable with your vulnerable side, you will be empowered to explore your passions and interests. By being open to new experiences and taking risks, you can discover activities, hobbies, and pursuits that actually resonate with you.

HOW SHARING VULNERABILITY CAN HELP YOUR RELATIONSHIP

When you are open about your thoughts, feelings, and who you are, it creates an environment of trust and understanding in your relationships. It allows you to develop honest bonds with friends, romantic partners, and family members. Feeling accepted, seen, and heard gives a person a sense of security. So, you become receptive to validation and support, and then are able to give it also.

Sharing vulnerability will enable you to be compassionate and empathize with another person’s point of view. This will lead to more effective communication and conflict resolution in relationships.

Teaching young men to accept vulnerability as a part of being a man can also change the dynamics of outmoded gender roles. It can shift the attitudes of power and control to those of mutual respect and equality. Being vulnerable means you have to let go of norms that enforce your dominance and instead try collaboration and power sharing. In this way, you will gain insight into other points of view.

An important step in the healing journey is to release shame and self-blame. Acknowledge the tender or wounded parts of yourself. Consciously challenge negative self-perceptions and embrace self-compassion. You will realize that you are not defined by your perceived weaknesses.

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