What is the meaning of a women’s life? Is it to be lived to make her family happy? Or is it meant to be a fulfilling of her own potential?

I really wonder at the different roles a woman plays in her whole life.

Lots of responsibilities, some are to be fulfilled for her own well-being, and some for the sake of society. Whatever duties she does, at the end of the day, only a few get noticed. Others remain quite unheeded.

Our Stupid Culture

It took me some time to realize that a girl’s life is not about the marks she scored. It’s not about how well she behaved in her school, not about the good compliments she received from her teachers, not at all about the good circle of friends she has/had, not about how well earning she is, not about how reputed her job is, not about how high her education qualification is, it’s not about how caring or loving she is to her parents/relatives.

The problem is with our society, our so called ‘Pakistani tradition/ culture?’ Can you think of some strangers, passing comments, or in a way judging you without knowing much about you? Or rather, if that is their right to do so, whatever good you did to please them.

It is all about her!

A woman has many purposes. She has a mind she can use in a satisfying career; she has communication skills to give effective speeches and presentations, as well as good writing skills. And most important, she has choices in the world today. Long ago a woman had few, if any, choices and the choice that gave her the most status and freedom was to marry and have a family.

Every woman is not mother material just like every man that fathers a child is not a daddy. Giving birth is an individual decision that no one can make but the women involved. Many women have never had children but have been mothers to many children that need a mother, now the other issue is men do not have the physical development to give birth.

Women can be different

Yes, biologically we are designed to birth children. This does not mean it is all we are capable of. Women can be career oriented, or choose a life of education or research, or build a business, anything. People need to decide their own courses in life, and not live their lives according to someone else’s arbitrary “rules’. Not everyone is suited for parenthood, some people are biologically incapable. These people are in no way ‘less than”.

We women, like men are human beings and just like you people, we too have our dreams. Dreams of supporting family, dreams of working in a huge Corporate company, dreams of making beautiful career, dreams to improve society around us, dreams to make parents proud and the list goes on and on.

In my opinion, however, life and human beings are far too complicated for anyone to have a sole purpose.

Team Versuasion Pakistan – Fareeha Robert