Nothing in life is constant, including our desires and perspective. As we mature, we sometimes see things in a different light and realize that we have started following a different path than we had expected.

Sometimes people find that they have changed over time and just are not happy, but a divorce or breakup doesn’t always have to be an acrimonious split.

While some people prefer to make a clean break after a long relationship, others prefer to remain friends and talk and even visit with one another regularly.

1. Have an honest conversation.

If you have decided to remain friends, it’s important to make sure that you are both on the same page. Once you’ve decided to end the relationship, sit down and have an honest heart-to-heart talk.

Friendship after a breakup is only possible if that’s what both parties want. You can’t force an ex into being friends. If being friends is not possible, respect the decision and move on.

2. Know the boundaries.

Sometimes being friends after a breakup is easier in theory than it is in practice. That is why it is imperative to set boundaries and stick to them.

Will you still feel the warm glow of friendship after the first time you see your ex dating someone new? It’s important to let the past be the past and move forward. You can’t keep rehashing the old arguments that doomed the relationship in the first place.

3. Ignore other people who tell you it’s wrong.

People may question your decision to remain friends with your ex, and their concerns may have some validity.

Still, this is a personal decision. You can take their advice into account, but if you think you can still be friends then it’s up to you. Telling those concerned that you can still be friends with your ex is one thing, demonstrating it will be better.

4. Take it slow.

Being friends after a breakup is a little different than going out with the girls or chatting with other acquaintances. Often, it’s faced with trust issues and must be approached slowly. Start with the occasional phone call or email. Once that becomes comfortable, move into face-to-face meetings occasionally for coffee.

5. Be realistic about what’s involved and know that it might not work.

While it’s commendable to try and make it work, the reality is some exes can’t move past the underlying cause of their breakup. Sometimes trying to be friends is just a mask for not being able to let go.

Be willing to put the work into the friendship, but also be realistic and know you both have some obstacles to overcome. If it really is just sad or frustrating to be around your ex, it may be time to say goodbye for real.

Versuasion Pakistan – Fareeha Robert