Breaking up and later realizing it was a mistake can be a difficult and confusing situation to navigate. If you find yourself in this position, here are some suggestions on what you can do next: Reflect on your feelings: Take some time to deeply reflect on your emotions and the reasons why you feel that breaking up was a mistake. Consider the aspects of the relationship that were fulfilling, the reasons for the breakup, and any changes you or your partner might need to make.

Communicate with your ex-partner: If you genuinely believe that getting back together is the right choice, reach out to your ex-partner and express your thoughts and feelings honestly. Be open to having an open and sincere conversation about what went wrong and how you both can work on the relationship moving forward.

Give them space: While it’s important to communicate your feelings, it’s equally important to respect your ex-partner’s boundaries and give them space if they need it. They may need time to process their own emotions and decide if they are open to reconciling.

Seek professional help if needed: If the relationship was particularly complex or if there are underlying issues that need to be addressed, seeking guidance from a relationship counselor or therapist can be beneficial. They can provide an objective perspective and help you both navigate the challenges and identify potential solutions.

Focus on personal growth: Regardless of whether you reconcile or not, it’s crucial to focus on your personal growth and well-being. Use this time to reflect on yourself, your needs, and your goals. Engage in activities that bring you joy, cultivate self-care practices, and work on personal development.

Remember, relationships are complex, and reconciliation may not always be possible or the best choice for both parties. It’s essential to consider both your own well-being and the well-being of your ex-partner when making decisions about the future of your relationship.

I’m always surprised by how many people automatically assume and say that it’s not meant to be. And they make this judgement just because it didn’t “work out”. I think the reality side is that people mess up, some people run away from conflicts, over-analyze and subconsciously will feel it’s not working out that they end up making sure of that without realizing it, people make rational and irrational decisions. And above everything most people take things for granted and overlook things to be grateful. That being said, a lot of people realize what they have when they no longer have it. It’s not only grieving loss where it’s something you should accept, it can also be a lesson for you to step up your game, put in the effort, and work harder at making it work. It’s where you learn that you need to reposition yourself and do things differently with each other because love is worth keeping. I think a lot of people have this “idea” that a relationship should be easy-going and this kind of unrealistic perfect version.

I’m not one to ever advise walking away and taking the easy route. If you believe in something and want something you have to go towards it and be fearless of how it might play out. Allow room for change and possibility. If they are someone you don’t want to easily give up, and they’re worth the “fight”, don’t waste time trying to pick it apart, battling with yourself whether it’s true or not. Go with it. Choose one side and embrace that side, whether it be letting them go or giving it another chance. No in between and “still figuring it out”. Make a choice and live that choice.

Versuasion Pakistan – Fareeha Robert