Feeling pressured to have sex in a dating relationship is common, but that doesn’t mean it’s acceptable. Love never demands someone to do something that would violate another person. Many people who feel pressured into having sex give in to it mostly because of the overwhelming fear of losing the person they really care about. In the end, some bargain away their bodies in an attempt to keep the relationship going. But in the process they lose their self-respect and gain the very real possibility of unwanted pregnancy, diseases, rape, a bad reputation, and of course, a broken heart.

Value Greater than the Desire

Most people with strong values have a clear understanding of what they believe and are far less susceptible to giving in to things they don’t want to do. Do you want to be a person who waits until they are married to have sex? It’s important to define for yourself why this is important to you. Without strong convictions, the person you date could push their value system — or lack thereof — onto you. Before you even start talking to a guy or girl, make sure you know what you believe and why.

Lack of Feelings or Commitment Misinterpretation

Explain your desire to not have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Tell them that it has nothing to do with a lack of feelings or your level of commitment. In fact, you like your boyfriend or girlfriend so much you don’t want to ruin a great relationship by having sex.

The Term “Love”

The term “love” is one of the most misunderstood and abused words in the dictionary. Love never demands someone to do something that would violate another person. It does not trash someone else’s deeply held values. It is patient, and is willing to wait for the right time and the right person. Love always looks after the other person first. Love is never selfish. When a guy really loves a girl, he will do everything he can to protect her.

Time to Move On

If the pressure for sex does not let up, get rid of him or her. If you are being pressured to have sex, realize that something isn’t right in your relationship. It is far better for you to lose your relationship than to do something you will later regret. Some people won’t get into a relationship unless they know they will be able to have sex. Be prepared to be rejected. Just remember you won’t die, and in the end the respect you will have for yourself, and the pain avoided, will be well worth it J

Versuasion Pakistan – Fareeha Robert