Women handle it much worse than men. The difference is that women have more social support for these kinds of negative situations. Men are told to deal with it. Any negative reaction from the man is seen as not handling rejection well. I had to keep my feelings to myself and suffer in silence in fear of ridicule from men and women. When I have rejected women, it is mostly by not even paying attention to them. I did not want to give them the wrong idea by looking at them and risk harassments accusations, or accidently being nice to one and her thinking that I might be interested in her. The more I ignored many, the more some became hostile towards me. They would get older women to shame me. Other men to harass me and try to get me to be more cooperative with the women. Male and female managers giving me ultimatums to scare me into obedience once they noticed I was avoiding female coworkers. I experienced shaming, ridicule, slander, mocked, vandalism, theft, gaslighting, ignoring, isolation, lack of help, and worse. Some women would tear me down with insults. Some would observe me from a distance to see my emotional state report it to the first or latter group. Then latter group of women would love bomb me trying to manipulate me into gentle compliance. If I continued to ignore them they would all have the same facial expression of shock and some sadness. A lot of women hate men that refuse to get into relationships. They cannot handle seeing a man reject all women.

Rejection for women is a little different on most accounts because men usually do the asking and we do the answering… which means a whole lot of waiting. But if the guy doesn’t like you, he doesn’t like you. A woman may not even find out that a man doesn’t like her until she hears it from someone else. All the time and commitment invested in waiting for the man to make a move is wasted, and the woman has to start over, trying to change the view of whatever relationship she currently has with the guy in question. Its more of a “suffer in silence” situation. It’s the same reason why a lot of women may have a guy they really want to date, and then several others that they “kinda like.”

Then there’s the proactive women who get so tired of waiting that they go out and tell the guy how they feel. Sometimes, if she has to go that far, the guy either isn’t interested or hasn’t even thought about dating. You can imagine the heartbreak that results.

So yes, I guess we do fear rejection, but after being rejected time after time before finding someone who doesn’t reject us, it’s really not so bad anymore.

Its because society continually views women as victims and men as aggressors. No matter how wrong that is in many cases.

When a guy gets blown out by a woman, he is expected to get over it almost instantly. Any sign of emotional discomfort or self-pity, and he will be told by friends, coworkers and family to “hurry up and pull yourself together” etc.

However when rejection happens to a woman, an entirely different dynamic arises. Firstly most women don’t get directly or blatantly “rejected” in the same way that men do, who might e.g. walk over to a woman and ask her out in a pub. With women it’s much more subtle and less identifiable. Rejection to them might mean the guy they like stops paying them attention, or stops walking home with them. Its not usually perceptible to most people.

But women tend to take it hard. If she is a narcissist, she may decide to take covert revenge in a way that flies under most peoples radar. This is what happened to a friend of mine. The woman he spurned mounted a months-long campaign against him at his workplace, trying to turn everyone against him and make him look bad.

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