There is nothing inherently wrong with a woman proposing to a man. In fact, many people believe that gender should not determine who can propose in a relationship. However, in some cultures or social circles, there may be traditional or conservative views that could lead to judgment or criticism. Additionally, some individuals may feel uncomfortable or emasculated if the woman takes on the traditional role of proposing. Ultimately, the disadvantages depend on the specific dynamics and beliefs of the individuals involved and the society in which they live.

Some women see that their man is holding off on proposing. It’s been several years and he still has a million and one excuses why it isn’t time yet. In some cases the man isn’t even given the opportunity, but the women figures she wants to take matters into her own hands. STOP! If it has been a few years and plenty of discussions about getting married with no result then why would you want to take this route? The man is showing you he isn’t willing or prepared to take it there, so realize that if he says yes it is simply because you backed him into a corner. Is that what you really want? Honestly, I think that is exactly what you are willing to take at that point. You have become so obsessed with validating this relationship with a marriage, or simply achieving your dream of marriage that you have lost sight of what is really important; being with a man who truly wants to spend his life with you in this union of marriage. If he isn’t truly invested into that concept then what is the point. You will find yourself unhappy and unfulfilled when the smoke clears. You also may cause resentment or frustration in him because you put him in a position to “give in” with a situation he wasn’t man enough to handle correctly in the first place. It just isn’t worth it for you to take the initiative to propose.

If a man wants to truly marry you then he will propose and take the necessary action to make that happen. If he hasn’t then either he truly is not ready (which it is up to you to determine if he has had enough time) or he simply isn’t the one for you. Most of you know the answer to that deep down inside but you choose to ignore it for many different reasons.  We all have to be honest with ourselves and accept our reality. Sometimes we spend years with someone who we should have never held on to for that long. His unwillingness to marry you is at times the confirmation that you refuse to acknowledge. It is better to walk away and prepare yourself for the man who will want to marry you, then for you to propose to the man who just isn’t prepared to take that step. At the end of the day the choice to propose is yours.

As mentioned earlier, when a woman proposes, she will seem desperate. There is also a tendency that the man will not take you seriously and might renounce his responsibilities, and vows the minute he thinks he is tired of you. 

If you feel ready to get married, but he does not seem to be on the same page, it’s time to have a serious conversation about the future of your relationship.

Team Versuasion Pakistan