When bad things happen to us which we think we don’t deserve, we often find ourselves saying, “Why me?” Let’s be honest life isn’t fair. If it was then the purpose of self-reflection or life would not be served. When a mishap happens while on the way to an interview or you get cheated by your close friend it is an example that bad things can happen to good people.

Life isn’t fair, and we’re doing an injustice to our children if we teach them to believe “it’s all good.” The victim side of “why me” is part of honest living in a fallen world. To put it in outright statement “Life Sucks”! Also there’s another side of “why me,” when we are celebrating some beautiful moments with our loved ones or touching the skies of success. If one side of “why me” is the victim side, the other side is the abundance side, pressed down and shaken together abundant life. Sometimes life isn’t fair in the sense that we receive a whole lot more than we deserve. For me it’s ‘there but for the grace of God go I.’ It makes me grateful for my safety net, grateful for my family and all the connections I have.”

Life is unfair, in a bad way and in a good way. We have some control over what happens to us. I’ve experienced the two sides of “why me” in my life many times, when I felt betrayed by my own close friends or when I was blessed with truly someone special who rendered the full support to make me shine and feel important.

Tomorrow is a day to focus on the second side of “why me,” the random goodness that comes our way in life which we did nothing to earn or deserve. Either way, take time tomorrow to marvel at the good things that have come your way with little or no effort on your part. That is, he is who he is because of genetics — being born with a certain set of genes that determine IQ, physical attributes, skin color and because of geography being born in a country where he was able to go to college instead of running for his life from a country descending into chaos. What I do know is that the sooner I let go of the need to find something or someone to blame, the sooner I’ll be able to put cancer behind me and enjoy life, however long or short it may be. Only when I accept the sometimes cruel randomness of fate will I be able to call myself a survivor.

Versuade Pakistan – Fareeha Robert