Is this the ideal partner I have been looking for? How do I know that my partner has finally arrived? I believe that if we had the answers to these questions, we would have saved ourselves many tears that have resulted in love failures and heartbreaks. Let us remember, however, that it is always good to take the experiences of couples as instances of learning and new opportunities to find love, or for it to find us.

Between polyamory where relationships are open and apps like Tinder that match us with profiles “similar” to ours, it seems that love, in its purest meaning, is losing credibility.

Is there such a thing as a perfect partner? No, because perfection does not exist, what does exist is a partner for us. As long as there is intimacy, commitment, and desire to love on both sides of life, there will be people with whom we can pair up. Let’s review 4 keys to know that we are with the one who is right for us.

1 They love us as we are

At the beginning of love relationships there is a period of “adaptation” in which both try to adjust or accommodate to make things work. But the most important thing is that, in spite of everything, we accept each other as we are, with the certainty that the imperfection that characterizes us as human beings will not be an impediment to love.

Let us not want to change the other person so that they adapt to us, since we would be in a couple with a sculpture that we mold to our liking.

2 They listen to us

One of the pillars of every couple is dialogue. Maintaining a fluid and sincere communication is essential to build a couple with solid foundations. Feeling listened to and, why not, advised, and knowing that the person on the other side is there for us, guarantees a healthy relationship.

3 They respect our individuality

It is very significant that each partner maintains their individuality and that this is respected by the couple. Hobbies, friendships and other activities should continue to exist in each partner’s personal sphere. It is a way to feel free, secure and to keep our self-esteem high.

4 They prefer to work as a team

Generating an underlying competition between the couple to see who has the highest income, who is more successful, or who does better is a serious mistake. Are we not both going in the same direction? When the person who accompanies us encourages us to move forward, cheers us when things do not go as we want and rejoices in our successes, we are in a relationship that works as a team. In other words, both are going in the same direction.

Finally, listen to your heart. If you feel at peace, at ease and happy moments prevail, then it is there, together with him or her, that your soul is in fullness.

Empathy, honesty, dialogue and shared laughter will make a relationship transcend the barriers of time and space.

Do you have other keys to share with us?

See you soon in the next article for Versuasions. Remember, I am here for whatever you need…

Translator Jimena Freytes